Attachment

Ya know...attachment to people is hard when your personality is independent, free, open, generous, adventurous.  I just listened to a song that taught to keep your hand wide open because you can't lose a thing if belongs to you.  Otherwise, throw it away.

But people are not for using and throwing away.  But, the question is, can people really "belong" to us?  We don't buy our mates.  We don't own our families.  People do family cut-offs all the time.  People divorce all the time.  Families break up all the time.  As we look around at our society, we see that ultimately, people are free to roam and live a life without obligation, despite our mores.  And the fact is, people do roam.

But look at those that are very, very successful.  Observe those that are very well respected and loved.  They are mated.  Or they were mated and are widowed.  It really looks to me like it's super important in life to have a best friend who you bond to body and soul.  It's a magical, treacherous, heart-rending attachment because of the fragility of the body.  That person who you are so intertwined with could die, will die someday.  Maybe they will die before you and then you'll be alone.  But, that's not always terrible.  You can feel alone in a crowd!  It all has to do with attachment.

I say, "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".  And really, if you've never been attached body and soul and had your heart rent in pieces from love, you haven't lived.  Loves hurts and love heals and it ATTACHES.  That's just it's way because of nature.  So, to deny attachment is to deny natural flow.  I want my hand to eventually hold one special hand and risk losing that hand to natural forces so that I can really know what it feels like to be attached at every level.

Namaste.